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Our RFL Recall: Are you Remembering or Learning?

Rapid Fire Learning (RFL) is our monthly stream-of-consciousness exercise at Joyful Jubilant Learning: We do it on the 25th of each month. Very simple thing, and pretty easy for people who think of themselves as lifelong learners (is the value of ‘Ike loa a biggie with you?). To practice RFL: Grab a blank sheet of paper and a pencil, and make a list of 5 things you learned during the current month.

If you get stalled at all, just think of 5 things which happened in the month (paid my income taxes, fooled around with watercolor, planted veggie seedlings in the garden, or whatever you did) and then ask yourself: What did I learn while I did each of those things? or perhaps, “Who was I with, and did they make any difference this time?”

You will soon think of learning as a process, with the subject matter simply being the trigger.

For example:

  • Income Taxes: I learned that “old school” Excel spreadsheets work way better for me at this point in time than QuickBooks does. My financial trends “pop up” very apparently versus being hidden in computing formulas done automatically in the software.
  • Watercolor: I learned that I might have an instinctual feeling for movement with color, something I was totally unaware of before. When the art seems to move I like it, and when it is stagnant, I am dissatisfied and frustrated.
  • Veggies: I learned that cherry tomatoes have very little chance of surviving the wild turkeys in our neighborhood unless I come up with a better caging system protecting them. Green or ripe, they all get eaten by those feathered raiders!

Rapid Fire Learning is one of those “bloggy things” which has fortuitously found its way into my management and leadership coaching too, for we learn much more spontaneously than we think we do: It is a crucial skill that we can all benefit from sharpening our awareness of. Coaching my managers in RFL can reap some fabulous breakthrough moments, whether they participate with the community at Joyful Jubilant Learning or do it within their own work teams. It is also terrific in the coaching of better follow-up habits: Now that you have learned those things, what will you do with them, or about them? Where will continuity and better productivity rhythm happen for you?

At first, we all have the tendency to question our spontaneity with learning recall. As we come up with our lists, the cynic or inner critic in us will ask: “Was this something I learned, or something I already knew and just happened to remember?” And worse, we lessen their gravity, thinking, “This is not such a big deal.”

Oh, but it is a big deal! If we aren’t going to learn, we aren’t going to grow.

My encouragement to you is this: Even if there is some remembering to it, give yourself the credit for learning. Chances are you remembered it, whatever “it” happened to be, because your context is now current and timely: There is learning opportunity in your remembering! You will newly consider, flex, choose between options, shift and adjust as you take action or retain and commit, and all those things require so much which is included in the learning process.

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You could say that learning is a juggling act of sorts, and you are the juggler who will perform a certain way given all kinds of circumstances: Your mood and your degree of confidence, your attire or costume, the wind if you are outside, the glaring stage lights if you are inside, an audience you are comfortably laughing with, or one which amps up your nervousness something fierce. Pretty easy to imagine how all those things can affect your juggling ability, isn’t it.

And like juggling, learning certain things can take practice: Lather, rinse, repeat… we do train ourselves in our learning processes, just as we better train our skill with catching those falling balls.

So don’t pooh-pooh your Rapid Fire Learning, okay? So what if it’s remembering something you already knew? Give yourself credit for that recall, and for remembering it when you needed to. Maybe what you’ll learn this time is where you can write it down and move on! Maybe your learning has been with memory, and how you triggered it, and why. Maybe you needed the time and space before you could learn a solution to an old problem, one that had previously seemed so frustrating and mistake-riddled. Continue to ask yourself questions and allow your learning to reveal those cool answers just waiting for you to newly discover them.

If you have not yet tried Rapid Fire Learning, please have April be the month you try it! You can join us at Joyful Jubilant Learning where a new host will be Mea Ho‘okipa each month and encourage us all to RFL within the posting comments there. Half the fun is reading what others have learned, supporting them, and having them encourage and congratulate you in return. And you never know what ideas you’ll hear about… who knows what you might decide to juggle next!

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Wondering what my RFLs were for April? Look for me there in the comments!

Phil Gerbyshak is hosting this time: Click over and share your list of 5 right now. We talked about creating good habits a few days ago, and Rapid Fire Learning is an exceptional habit to cultivate.


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Love (and Learning) is All You Need

JJLer Karen Wallace has done the honors with introducing our learning theme for February at Joyful Jubilant Learning: Click over to read Love is All You Need.

"When we started talking about what we'd write about for February, Love seemed such an obvious choice. After all, February is the month of romance, secret admirers, red roses and cheesy valentine's cards..."

And I echo her invitation to you:

"We'd love you to join us!

If you've an open heart and love to share and would like to contribute to JJL this month, please write us via our Community Mailbox and we'll reserve a spot for you on our editorial calendar. We'll respond with love..."

A note for those of you reading via RSS or email: Do click into the blog for a video clip included here today.

While you're there...

I posted a preview for the month of March too: As we have done in years past, we will devote the month of March to our annual - and beloved! - A Love Affair with Books.

Review your favorite book of the past year for us, would you? Here is the invitation: Wholeheartedly Books.

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Welcome to a Brexy Presidency

Brex was the name we in the Ho‘ohana Community had given to the learning initiative we embraced during all of 2008: Braver Experiments [with] Digital Learning. This was how I had introduced it about a year ago; much of this is different now, which is good ~ we did learn!

I've just joined a new social network on Ning in the past week. Have been on LinkedIn for a while now, have a Tumblr lifestream, but I'm not a Twitterer and have said no to Facebook on purpose (Yeah, you can say no. What's hard is to stop second-guessing yourself about it.) Have discovered some contextual and social construct strengths I never realized I had, but am lost within learning how to actually apply them now.

I am feeling like I am really getting behind. I'm not being facetious: Read between the lines for what I still don't do, or think about what your kids already do. Think how much longer it takes you to learn the same things... One thing the Ho‘ohana Community has taught me through all this, is not to go it alone in my learning now.

See Postscript 2 at the end of this article for more on how we Brexed it last year.

Therefore, one of the things I have been most tickled about in these historic months leading us to our Barack Obama presidency, is how they have furnished us with such a precedent-setting living laboratory for our digital learning. We have taken global surveys and hummed along to YouTube parodies, we have tweeted and flickred, and we have ourselves learned to become citizen publishers.

I was able to spend a fair amount of time online during Inauguration Day, and the geek in me thrilled to the links shared, and the immediacy of them. Here are some you might enjoy too:

  • Transcript of President Obama's Inaugural Address, shared by KGMB9.com at 7:35am HT
    "Today I say to you that the challenges we face are real. They are serious and they are many. They will not be met easily or in a short span of time. But know this, America - they will be met."
  • Change has come to WhiteHouse.gov, at The White House Blog - first post at 12:01pm ET, a clear "we are ready" signal about the smoothness of this transition, and a message about the work which had already been steadily done to prepare.
    "Our initial new media efforts will center around three priorities: Communication... Transparency... Participation... "
  • We watched, on the Flickr blog. This one was such fun: We all saw many of the same media clips on television, but the Flickr community brought us into living rooms all across the globe. In particular, I loved seeing children watching; I imagined their parents teaching, and taking up their first line of responsibility in doing their part.
    "Many of us stopped what we were doing this morning to watch history being made. Here are a selection of photographs from our Inauguration 2009 group pool."
  • Starbucks Pledge5, created by Starbucks Coffee
    "Join the call for national service: What if you gave 5 hours to help your community?"
    The cynical may say this one is just a clever marketing campaign to get us in their coffeeshops, however were you this clever and timely in your business? When the email first hit my inbox, there were already over 80,000 hours pledged ~ that would be 16,000 customers listening...

Those are a mere sampling, for there were dozens to choose from! If you caught a favorite online yesterday, let us know in the comments, would you?

I am eager to see what will come next: Eager to share in imaginations far bigger than mine, but overjoyed with this new ease within which I can share in them, and continue to learn.

If the history-making aspect of this first digitally staged and commanded campaign and presidency intrigues you too, here are a few more links you might enjoy, most written immediately after his election victory:

  1. Nov.04th: Propelled by Internet, Barack Obama Wins Presidency at the Wired Blog Network
  2. Nov.10th: Barack Obama’s Ultimate Guide to Marketing: How he Used Internet and Social Media to Become President-Elect at DWSmg.com
  3. Nov.22nd: How Will Obama Now Use the Internet Army He Built? at Newsweek Enterprise - Technology

Postscript: I will be posting soon on the learning initiative that I have chosen for our Ho‘ohana Community in 2009. My thoughts have bounced back and forth between two different possibilities, and I have been allowing both to sit with me since the New Year, trusting that the most pressing of the two will begin to speak the loudest until I have no choice but to listen, and sure enough, it did.

Postscript 2: We kicked off Brex in February of 2008 with a series of 4 articles on Managing with Aloha Coaching. Here are the links:

Good book? What was it about?

If you look at the best writers on time management and productivity, Personal Taylorism [getting caught in the ‘efficiency trap’ under the guise of being busy /rs-my bracket] is not what they intended. They teach us to manage the small stuff in order to free ourselves for bigger challenges.

Steven Covey tells us to prioritise ‘important but not urgent’ tasks over the ephemeral demands of the moment. David Allen recommends taking time out to look at your life ‘from 50,000 feet’ and ‘intuiting your life purpose and how to maximise its expression’.

Leo Babauta reminds us to put the ‘big rocks’ into your schedule before the time is filled up with ‘pebbles and sand’. Tim Ferriss takes this to extremes, advising us to eliminate all tasks apart from the mission-critical 20% that delivers 80% of the results.

~ Mark McGuinness, Beyond Getting Things Done: Lateral Action | Lateral Action

How many of us can do this? Yes, the substance of the quote itself, but also, can you reduce the essence of what you read in a book, or from a thought leader, to a lesson-learned and personal take-away as Mark McGuinness has done?

I think this is one of the things that Rapid Fire Learning helps us with, for it forces us to look back and reflect habitually, and just in the context of a month at a time. It is manageable and it is reasonable. Most of all, you honor your own time by asking yourself, Okay, now what did I just get out of this?

Easy question every time someone re-joins your team huddle after a business trip away, or attending some training session that H.R. put on and mandated: Can you tell us in a sentence or two what you got out of it?

When I look at my own bookshelf right now, I wonder if I could...

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July Tuesdays: Learning in the MWA way

I am feeling great about the way that our Tuesday Coaching essays have come together this month on Managing with Aloha Coaching, and I hope you will check them out.

Our value for the month is ‘Ike loa, the Hawaiian value of learning, and given what a huge topic learning is, the month’s essays do concentrate specifically on learning “in the Managing with Aloha way.” The series came to be with questions I had received from different people in the Ho‘ohana Community, which could be summed up as, “how do you frame learning strictly within the workplace philosophies of Managing with Aloha?”

This is the way it came together:

  • 7/15 = Tuesday 2
    The Learning Process of MWA
  • 7/22 = Tuesday 3
    Learning from other People (will include the Daily 5 Minutes)
  • 7/29 = Tuesday 4
    Explorations in Tertiary Learning: Developing your ‘Ike loa Habit

In today’s essay, I...

  1. define tertiary learning and why it is so important,
  2. suggest the role that employers play with tertiary learning in the workplace,
  3. talk about the MWA assertion that work is personal (and how that connects to learning),
  4. share my feelings on where workplace training generally falters and misses the mark,
  5. define the key deliverables of the MWA learning process,
  6. offer a note-taking exercise where you can test your next training in the framework of those MWA key deliverables, and finally, as the essay title had promised,
  7. give a contextual workplace definition for learning as a process with a beginning, middle, and end.

All in just over 2000 words, and including a homework assignment for those who want to seize the moment, and make that reading count for their learning today, here and now (Kēia Manawa!)

Please comment for me there if you’re one of the Talking Story readers who dig into it, okay? Mahalo nui.

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How’s this for some great tertiary learning in the MWA way?
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‘Ike loa: Boldly about Knowledge

This is the poster I have made (via Wordle) as my own visual ‘Ike loa trigger this month:

‘Ike loa: Boldly about Knowledge:

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I created it with the excerpt from Managing with Aloha I had shared in the MWAC Day One Essay: ‘Ike loa, the Hawaiian Value of Learning

Feel free to print up a copy for you too! You can get a download on my Flickr page; this one is a bit off-center.

When you "write story" about learning, what leaps off the page for you?

Write a short paragraph with what you think about learning, paste it into the Wordle Create box, and see what comes up... you actually only need one or two few pithy sentences.

Share your biggest word impression for learning in the comments for us: Learning is a huge topic and we can come up with several hits! Any surprise to you?

A lot of English words in my book compared to the Hawaiian ones... using Wordle, aka "beautiful word clouds" I have also been fascinated to see how differently my book excerpts appear compared to my blog posts. For those of you who are writers, it is a great app to play with in your editing process.

Say Aloha to July 2008!

In July we are going full throttle LEARNING!

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I have two Day One Essays for you to check out, one on Managing with Aloha Coaching, and another on Joyful Jubilant Learning; we'll dish more here later about them, okay?

For today, be sociable, and go join the rest of the Ho‘ohana Community:

You'll find out what this one is all about...

6 Weeks on Flickr —Mahalo!

7 Wonders of Learning - Help make it happen!

The countdown begins!

Ho‘ohana Community, here is our opportunity to participate in something pretty spectacular, and I know it would be easy for all of you to do, lifelong learners that you are! All you have to do is contribute your 7 favorite learning links!

Join us in our big, hairy, audacious goal to Saturday, 07-07-07 and

Listen, Laugh, Learn, Link, Love, Live
and Leap to Wonder

  • Listen — welcome new ideas and every teacher, listening fully opened
  • Laugh — with the positive and uplifting joy others are ready to give you
  • Learn — with childlike curiosity and in a collaboratively jubilant way
  • Link — use others’ lessons learned as a springboard for your own, sharing your knowledge freely
  • Love — tap into your passion for learning, and be of loving heart in your new bonds with others
  • Live — be a shining example of the Lifelong Learner; “Be the learner you want to see in the world”
  • Leap — to a new experience, stretching past the familiar, accepting leaps of higher intuition.
    Allow learning to transform you, and to bring you to Wonder.

This is the BHAG we are leaping toward at Joyful Jubilant Learning:

On 07-07-07 we are determined to collect at least 777 Learning Links, possibly more.

This is a shout-out to all lifelong learners, readers and writers alike. Will you help us reach our goal? 

Click over to JJL today for the details on how you participate.

Ho‘o! Let’s do this, and help make it happen!

Self-service is No-service

Great article to learn from in Inc. this month: What's Wrong With This Picture? Nothing!

One of those mornings-with-coffee-and-magazine where I happened across an article I ended up ripping out, highlighting and making an idea list for my own company from.

Like this quote:

"Self-service sounds like it's about convenience, but it's making the client do all the work. That is an anti-customer-service message."

--- Dawson Rutter, Founder of Commonwealth Worldwide Chauffeured Transportation explains why after buying a $50,000 phone system for his company, they immediately disabled the feature that forced callers to navigate through endless menu prompts. Phone Commonwealth and you are greeted instantly with the recorded assurance that your call will be answered within three rings. "And it is."- Leigh Buchanan, article author

Believe in your Biology!

Did you know —truly know and realize— that positive and negative is a one or the other occurrence, and not a both at the same time?

I am a very trusting reader. I will accept much of what an author says without needing proof. Foolish? I don't think so; I believe that the mana'o of a writer (mana'o is their deeply held beliefs and convictions) has enough connected experience to trump facts a good deal of the time.

Then again, it's pretty sweet to know how much our biology has its own special wisdom. As I can remember, this knowledge came to me when I read First, Break All the Rules, in which authors Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman speak of how the brain grows (the discussion beginning on page 80 if you have the book). They explain how from the day we are born, our child's mind "begins to reach out, aggressively, exuberantly." They say that during the first fifteen years of our lives our brain cells make connections called synapses, and in "the carving of these synaptic connections is where the drama unfolds." It is this drama that will determine our innate gifts and talents.

I've never been as inclined toward science, and normally I'll zip through those parts of a book that lay out the research done to add to a theory's credibility, but that time I did, fascinated by the whole discussion.

So this quote, found more recently in the pages of a magazine, filled me with a kind of comfort too: (the parentheses are mine) and the [brackets were in the quote itself.]

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"Love (aloha) and appreciation (mahalo) are both positive emotions (and values!) And when you engage in either of them, or any other positive emotions, you cannot be simultaneously miserable. That's because the brain is not wired to possess both a positive and a negative at the same time ... In other words, you cannot be on two different streets at the same time ... [If you are a habitually negative person], (choose your attitude, and) engage the lesser-used pathways of [the] brain so that eventually [you] might have more of a positive perspective on life."
—From What Happy Women Know: How New Findings in Positive Psychology Can Change Women's Lives for the Better, by Dan Baker PhD and Cathy Greenberg PhD with Ina Yalof.

I remember the street metaphor in First, Break All the Rules too: They explain that during childhood our brains make a colossal amount of synaptic connections between cells, but eventually the brain will have to choose between them, strengthening some, and allowing weaker ones to wither away. They quote a Dr. Harry Chugani, professor of neurology at Wayne State University Medical School, likening this pruning system to a highway system:

"Roads with the most traffic get widened.
The ones that are rarely used fall into disrepair."

What does this tell us? We have a choice between being positive or negative, and our brain is wired to help us out! Quite cool.

Mental pruning for innate talent + highway widening for optimism and enthusiasm. Now THAT is some sweet scientific sugar for living with aloha!

Maybe I can learn to love science after all...


Archive dipping;

A message to managers: Greatattitude

We always have a choice between the positive and negative, and our workplaces can create an abundance of positive choices and a scarcity of negative ones. If most of the choices available to us are overwhelmingly positive they fill us with enthusiasm. We trust that more likely than not, a great result will follow, and we step forward with a great attitude.

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