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Color Outside Your Lines

2009 is teaching us to be brave. We are finding we need to reinvent, and break out of any little boxes we may have put ourselves in.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot as I stretch and pull at my own business models (I have three of them going right now), and I realized something: For me to reinvent my models, I probably have to start with reinventing me first.

Don’t think. Just paint.

But do I have to reinvent, or do I just have to open up, and let some parts of me come out and play more than they have before? Isn’t that what Palena ‘ole teaches us? Palena ‘ole is one of the 9 key concepts of Managing with Aloha: It is the abundance mentality of unlimited capacity. As we learn Palena ‘ole practices, we learn to dabble in each of our four-fold capacities; physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual.

As I’ve thought about this over the last few months, I’ve decided that one way I would love to ‘dabble’ and to see me change (yep, me) is within Le‘ale‘a, the spirit of playfulness. For most of my life I’ve been so darned serious. Playful businesses can be successful just as much as serious ones can, right? The prospect seems much more joyful to me.

You’ve been here as I’ve explored some of these thoughts. Remember A Whole New Mind? And Dwayne’s birthday... remember the image I had there?

Well, this past weekend I decided that I am going to learn something that is way outside the box for me. I am going to literally color outside the lines I’ve closed myself in, and learn watercolor painting. Found the perfect book to help me with my first playful swipes at this: Watercolor for the Artistically Undiscovered, one of those crafty books in the Klutz Press series. I love the approach by authors Thacher Hurd and John Cassidy:

Just one no.5 Brush

“Why You Can’t Not Paint”

WCBookJacket Relax for a moment while we probe into your mind and read your innermost thoughts. You’re looking at this book and reading these words because deep inside you, some little part of you would like to learn to paint or draw. But, at the same time, you’re confused, frustrated. Why? Because your artistic talent is in remission. It was last seen in a fingerpainted flower your mother stuck to the refrigerator. Since then, your genius has been in a deep sleep, perhaps even in a coma, buried somewhere inside you. You haven’t heard from it in years.

Allow us to make an obvious point.

Art is Personal Expression. You have YOUR talent. Nobody else has anything like it. They can’t. It’s biologically impossible. DaVinci splattered paint his way; you splatter paint your way… In this book, the only mistake you can make is to criticize yourself, get in your own way —or to start straining and stop having fun. Your talent is for being you and for expressing all that wonderful you-ness; you’re the world’s absolute undisputed champion at it.”

So far I’m only on splats, smudges, wiggles and twirls. Haven’t even got to any color mixing yet. The authors call it “no-thinking brush play.” Right up my alley. “Quick, no thinking strokes = clear colors. Too careful, slow strokes = muddy colors.”

And I’m having a ball.

A twirl I can handle!   Attention! You cannot mess this up!

I’ll be doing this again next weekend. Might not even wait that long!

What does this have to do with my business reinventions? Maybe nothing. Most probably everything.

What will you be doing in your Palena ‘ole exploration?


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Has ALAWB09 got you into the RTTS Habit yet?

Remember this?

Reading to Talk Story about

Are you running out of topics to talk about in your workplace huddles?

That will never happen to you if you cultivate the RTTS Habit:

  1. Read something
  2. Trigger new thoughts (question what you just read)
  3. Talk Story about it (with someone, or with your team)

Read. Trigger. Talk Story.

We talked about this last when I shared some web links with you, yet for that ‘sequential and consequential learning’ we speak of with ‘Ike loa you just can’t beat a great book, I think…

Reading

“…someone who calls themselves a manager of people must be a learner, and they must dedicate themselves to non-stop, sequential and consequential learning.

Sequential in that it builds upon previous lessons learned, and it takes you through a process where you question instruction and do not always accept what you are taught at face value; you polish it like a gem in your mind until something about it rings true for you.

Consequential in that it is worthwhile stuff; it makes a difference for you, and you aren’t simply collecting lessons on some scorecard. There’s some personal take-away in it for you. Now that you know it, you’re going to use it.”

‘Ike loa; to seek knowledge and wisdom.
Managing with Aloha (page 136

A Love Affair with Books 2009

So choose a good book, and allow your reading to trigger a few new ideas for you.

We will be wrapping up A Love Affair with Books this week on Joyful Jubilant Learning and you will find a wealth of recommendations waiting for you there. We have had 35 books reviewed over the 35 days by 35 different reviewers, all writers who are lifelong learners and eager to share some conversation about their book of choice - with YOU. If nothing else, leave a short comment for them which simply says mahalo - thank you for writing this up for us - let them know when and if their words do reach you.

Book 36 is being reviewed today and book 37 tomorrow: Which of these 37 will be the learning and talk story goodness of your RTTS Habit of sequential and consequential learning?

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Communication is our Killer App

Last post I told you about a new Twitter account I’d be setting up for Say “Alaka‘i.” As popular as Twitter has become, I knew that it might be a stretch for many managers and leaders, but I decided to try anyway. If there is one thing I will not allow myself to do, it’s underestimate you and what you are capable of.

When they first heard about it, there were a few managers already in my personal Twitter community who also wondered what in the world I was thinking, for I already had one account where they were engaging with me; why another? —and this, from people who are Twitter evangelists!

The answer is that most of you who read this blog aren’t there, and the Rosa Say floodgates of Twitter enthusiasm have been fully flung open at @rosasay: I didn’t want you to get overwhelmed by some of the rabbit trails I will joyfully bound down in my learning there, especially if you were new to Twitter. I wanted to streamline and Alaka‘i-focus on @sayalakai, creating another digital, web-based management/ leadership place you could more comfortably jump into and learn about. In the process, I hope to develop another way that we can quickly and easily communicate.

Here’s the thing: I believe that we can always converse with each other more than we are, sharing the incredible amount of knowledge stored up in our amazing brains. You know how I feel about ‘talking story.’ You can expect that I will continue to stubbornly work on communication as my killer app in promoting Alaka‘i leadership, and managing with Aloha.

“Technology has revolutionized our landscape.”

Let me share an excerpt from one of my all-time favorite business books:

“Until recently, bizpeople could survive for years without advice, without connection skills, perhaps even without new ideas. But now that the bizworld is moving at a velocity once unheard of, many of us can’t keep up. We’ve made some bad decisions, we’ve received some bad advice, we didn’t get connected to the right opportunities, we’re feeling left behind or left out.”

“Technology has revolutionized our landscape. Before the information revolution, business changed gradually and business models became antiquated even more slowly. The value progression evolved over decades and double decades. You could go to college, get an MBA and work for forty years, and your pure on-the-job knowledge stayed relevant. Relationships were for the most part geo-bound, and only a handful of people comprised your entire business network.”

“That was yesterday. Forget about today, because tomorrow is upon us. And to succeed in tomorrow’s workplace, you need a killer application [a killer app].”Tim Sanders, author of Love is the Killer App: How to Win Business and Influence Friends

In his book, Sanders goes on to explain that love is his killer app, saying that “those of us who use love as a point of differentiation in business will separate ourselves from our competitors just as world-class distance runners separate themselves from the rest of the pack trailing behind them.” His book is exceptional (he has a great blog too), and I highly recommend you read more of what he has to say in regard to his definition of ‘love business;’ “the act of intelligently and sensibly sharing your intangibles [of our knowledge, our network, and our compassion] with your bizpartners.”

We need each other, and we need to realize we do

I believe that Tim Sanders is right: Love IS the killer app. Sanders wrote Love is the Killer App in 2002, and it is still highly relevant for our times. There is no way I will ever give up on love —that would be like giving up on Aloha!

However today, my ‘killer app’ is conversation. I can write quite a bit, and about all kinds of things related to management and leadership and business, but the writing doesn’t amount to much without the conversation which brings it to life in every day application for you.

“Build a community of those you love and who love you.”
Mitch Albom, author of The Five People You Meet in Heaven

To love people, to share your Aloha with them as a community, you have to continually create ways that you can communicate with them. You have to make it easy for those people to communicate with each other too. I don’t believe that most of you are already engaging with me, and with each other, so I am hoping that Twitter will be another avenue to help us make that happen. We have gotten off to a great start there, and I am excited to see just how dynamic our engagement can still become.

Ultimately, we learn most from each other

“The process of connection is highly proactive. So are most successful people… your network is your net worth.”
Tim Sanders

@sayalakai is an experiment; a pilot project for Say “Alaka‘i.” Pilot projects are great: We play with them in the process of committing to a decision about them one way or the other, but we play full out, so that if they don’t work we’ll know we gave it our best shot. If Twitter doesn’t work, I will try something else, but it will still be about improving the way we communicate.

If you are a manager or a leader, not communicating is not an option.

So, we play full out, giving this pilot a shot: Let’s talk story. Make conversation your killer app too. You now have three Alaka‘i ways to do so:

  1. Comment right here on the blog —I encourage you to introduce yourself so we can get to know you.
  2. Twitter with us @sayalakaimahalo nui loa to those who have already jumped in there!
  3. Email me your questions for Sunday Koa Kākou —it’s no surprise to me that Sundays now capture some of the best postings here, for you make this happen.

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Communication is our Killer App

A Talking Story Extra: If you do not yet have it, Love is the Killer App is a must for the personal library of managers and leaders. I wrote more about the book in this posting in our archives: 7 More Ways to get the most from Books.


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Book Review: A Whole New Mind by Daniel Pink

A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future by Daniel H. Pink

My review

rating: 4 of 5 stars
I read this book straight through in a single sitting, my companion during a long day of trans-Pacific travel, yet it will be one that I keep at my side for a few more weeks to come, perhaps longer, for it begs study and self-application.

A Whole New Mind is very easy to read: In the initial chapters Pink explains and describes “a seismic —though as yet undetected— shift now underway in much of the advanced world. We are moving from an economy and a society built on the logical, linear, computerlike capabilities of the Information Age to an economy and a society built on the inventive, empathetic, big-picture capabilities of what's rising in its place, the Conceptual Age.”

As he describes this, it seems to be great news, especially to those who revere the arts and fully realize how we miss understanding their larger benefits; we are evolving well! However the fact remains that we will need some coping strategies, and Pink sets out to give them to us in the form of what he calls learning to use six senses that may not be dormant for us — all released by more right brain direction.

Pink has updated this revised paperback version of his book with a bit of new material, and there are six mini portfolios designed to help the reader who does decide to study further and self-coach themselves into more right-brain-directed thinking: There is a portfolio for each of the "six high-touch senses" he advocates we learn to better use: Design, story, symphony, empathy, play and meaning. I would highly recommend this in my managerial coaching, and want to explore it more, bringing it into alignment with my Managing with Aloha mana‘o.

For now, and for fun, I did attempt a bit of a stretch, applying the book to our February theme on Joyful Jubilant Learning:

Whole Minded Love

Yesterday, I’d said I believe that “we within the Joyful Jubilant Learning community do ‘wholeheartedly’ very, very well.” It’s one reason that this month’s theme, where we are learning about love feels like such a natural to me. I often think of love as an affair of the heart and soul, and of oh-so-human feelings openly revealed. Hopefully wise in its intuition, love is wholehearted.

On the other hand, I first think of learning as more physical (tactical) and intellectual —cerebral. How to reconcile those two thoughts, and bring them together in the most pleasing way?

A possible answer came to me unexpectedly this past weekend, when comfy and secure in the knowledge that Karen Wallace would be kicking the month off for us here, I put my normal Day One flurry of writing aside, and collected some reading for a full day of cross-Pacific travel. I devoured one of the books I had with me in a single sitting: Daniel H. Pink’s A Whole New Mind. He was writing about our brains, but in thinking about our JJL theme, I was mostly reading about our hearts.

A stretch? Maybe, but it could be fun… it could be right-brain creative!

Can we learn more about Love in a Whole Minded way?

Gazebo Rose~ Pink Macro

...continued at JJL: Whole Minded Love


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A Book Review of Seth Godin's Tribes: Good Message, Rotten Context

I owe you a follow-up. From The Top 7 Business Themes on my 2009 Wish List:

5. The Role of the Manager reconstructed
Managers matter, yet we still don’t quite understand why they matter and how. Managers still work and operate in that vast wasteland called “middle management” where they are babysitting the mediocrity tolerated in our organizations instead of being stewards of the smart, professional, and mission-based disciplines which make them healthier. I am afraid that until the role of the manager changes, nothing else will.

A future preview: Marketing Guru Seth Godin is enjoying some success right now with his latest book, Tribes: We Need You to Lead Us, and I will review it in a future blog post. In short, he seeks to elevate leadership —and I applaud his ideas in that regard, however he does so at the expense of management, and he depreciates the worth of managers nearly every single time he mentions them. I understand the comparison he is trying to make, however please don’t buy in to that notion that we don’t need managers —he is dead wrong.

As promised, this is my book review for Tribes: We Need You to Lead Us.

Tribes I’m normally quite an enthusiastic fan of marketing author Seth Godin, with several of his books in my library. I read his blog regularly, and thus had sweet anticipation built up for Tribes once he announced the book was to be released, for I had caught his early blog posts hinting to the thoughts he’d had simmering, discussing them with the readers of my coaching site.

However this time, Godin has written a book which annoyed me with its careless construction (what little there is), and disturbs me for a reason which cuts deeply for someone who thinks of herself as the managers’ advocate; Godin didn’t have to knock management in order to elevate leadership. A pity really, for the book could have stood on its own without him doing so —and with more editing and thoughtful construction. Tribes is a book which seemed to have been rushed to publication for some reason, with something I found to be very out of character for the writing I have come to expect from Seth Godin —several contradictions and an incomplete thesis. Unfortunately, the book comes off as an added revenue stream in his publishing empire versus a book with an important message.

Godin is a master at something I frequently will advocate with you: He chooses his vocabulary carefully, to create a ‘language of intention’ which gets talked about and communicated easily. His fans can tell you all about his “zooming,” who a “sneezer” is, why “purple cows” are remarkable, and about the ingredients in a “meatball sundae.” Brilliance. In that regard he doesn’t disappoint in Tribes, for it is rife with several gems, mostly winners he’s pulled out of past blog posts proven to resonate. However this time they are lined up with a jab here, and a joust there, and Godin seems to sputter pronouncements one after the other with very little effort at substantiating them. He seeks to be concise and pithy, (and he usually is), but in a convoluted Tribes I found him to be impatient and incomplete.

Then the punch to the gut: Godin has selected a word I revere, leadership, and has sought to define it as the better comparison to an anti-management message that is riddled with rude assumptions in the generalities he uses. For example;

“Management is about manipulating resources to get a known job done. Managers manage a process they’ve seen before, and they react to the outside world, striving to make that process as fast and as cheap as possible.
Leadership, on the other hand is about creating change that you believe in.
Movements have leaders, and movements make things happen.
Leaders have followers; managers have employees.
Managers make widgets, leaders make change.”

Clearly, Godin doesn’t really understand what great managers really do.

Godin defines a tribe as “People connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea.” He says that tribes need two things; shared interest, and way to communicate. Oh, and a critical third need is this one: You “can’t have a tribe without a leader, and you can’t be a leader without a tribe.”

His core message is this one, a call to brave leadership: “Everyone is not just a marketer, everyone is a leader: Anyone who wants to make a difference can… The question isn’t ‘Is it possible?’ but ‘Will I choose to [lead]?’ …The market needs you, we need you, and the tools are there just waiting. All that’s missing is you, and your vision, and your passion.”

This is a good message, and Godin’s book, his apparent call to arms within leadership, seeks to talk to us about two things: Not wasting the tools newly available to us every day, and being the leader possible movements need to make them happen. He’s quick to use internet examples, but the internet is just one tool, and he explains why “You don’t need a keyboard to lead, you just need the desire to make something happen. If you want to lead, and have the right cause, you can.”

I agree with much of what Godin says about leadership. For example, “Leadership is an act of generosity: You are providing fuel for a movement.” He devotes some time to explaining his belief that “People want connection, growth, something new: They want change… Being part of a tribe is one of our survival mechanisms… We can’t resist the rush of belonging, and the thrill of the new.” Sounds pretty good, right? However with each page turned, I found myself voicing one “yeah, but” after another, seeing the opportunity for management and leadership partnerships versus one being lifted at the expense of the other.

I honestly could continue with more snippets which share the potential of Tribes, but as I’ve already done in these few paragraphs, to do so requires a repackaging that would take considerable more work, work I feel Godin should have done for the price of his book. So I think I will leave it at this:

If you are a Seth Godin fan I expect that you will like Tribes. He loves to tell stories, and he shares quite a few entertaining ones. I agree with Godin on the opportunity which exists for more leadership in our world, and I think that a reader eager to lead can come away with quite a few triggers which will steer them in the right direction. I simply ask you to skip over the anti-management message, for it is quite irrelevant to the rest of the book, and it simply isn’t as true as Godin would have you believe. Managers matter.

Book Review: The Eyre Affair (Thursday Next, Book 1) by Jasper Fforde

The Eyre Affair (Thursday Next, Book 1) The Eyre Affair by Jasper Fforde

My review

rating: 4 of 5 stars
A quick, fun read leaving you with a great admiration for Fforde’s imagination and cavalier literary liberties. Thank you to Aaron for a terrific recommendation, succeeding in getting me back to sprinkling my normal business-book diet with some lighthearted fiction.

The product description from Amazon.com describes it well:

In Jasper Fforde's Great Britain, circa 1985, time travel is routine, cloning is a reality (dodos are the resurrected pet of choice), and literature is taken very, very seriously. England is a virtual police state where an aunt can get lost (literally) in a Wordsworth poem and forging Byronic verse is a punishable offense. All this is business as usual for Thursday Next, renowned Special Operative in literary detection. But when someone begins kidnapping characters from works of literature and plucks Jane Eyre from the pages of Brontë's novel, Thursday is faced with the challenge of her career. Fforde's ingenious fantasy-enhanced by a Web site that re-creates the world of the novel--unites intrigue with English literature in a delightfully witty mix.

Love being able to add ‘bibliowit’ to my vocabulary (compliments to the WSJ review on the book jacket) and I keep thinking that this was the perfect book for me to recommit to reading in 2009 precisely because of all of Fforde’s “literary allusion and bibliowit.” I was left with a list of books, mostly classics, that I haven’t read since college and have forgotten so much of, which I’d love to reread again now. Then I could trace my calendar to read The Eyre Affair again at the end of the year, to newly appreciate some references that probably flew right past me.

As for the “clever wordplay,” the naming and characterization of Braxton Hicks really cracked me up the most. Every woman who has ever carried a child will understand.

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POMD: January 10, 2009

Book Review: The Four Obsessions of an Extraordinary Executive

The Four Obsessions of an Extraordinary Executive is a leadership fable by Patrick Lencioni, and though not as savvy a title, it could also have been called The One Focus of a Healthy Organization with a Disciplined CEO: Culture, Culture, Culture, Culture.

Four_obsessions I have just begun to get familiar with Patrick Lencioni’s work, and this is the second of his books I have listened to and then read (If you are a Lencioni groupie, my first was The Three Signs of a Miserable Job: A Fable for Managers (And Their Employees). I liked that one too; just never got around to reviewing it.

I am primarily a visual learner, one who has always preferred to read non-fiction books with a sturdy hardcover I can annotate completely. However in the mix of fiction and non-fiction they usually are, business parables are the exception; I always prefer to listen to them first and enjoy the melodic story-telling of the narrator so I can get the whole story before I start to take it apart for the “non-fiction” lesson it tries to tell. In fact, I will usually listen to them while on my daily walk precisely because it’s too much hassle to bring pen and paper with me, and then stop, sit on a curb or rock wall somewhere and write down my thoughts; I have to listen well (and with an Open, Positive Mindset!) and that’s that.

I am finding that whether it is his deliberate intention or not, Lencioni is a brilliant marketer for someone like me (another management and leadership coach who writes and studies business theory) and for all managers looking to get better at what they do. His stories are very well crafted, and though you already know the story, you end up buying the book to keep the non-fiction model he adds in the final pages which suggests how you can begin to actually practice what the story urges you to do. In essence he is painting this picture of a very familiar present circumstance, spinning a story of how it can turn out with a happy ending, and then enticing you to become the real-life protagonist of his fable.

pro·tag·o·nist  Pronunciation: [proh-tag-uh-nist] –noun
1. the leading character, hero, or heroine of a drama or other literary work.
2. a proponent for or advocate of a political cause, social program, etc.
3. the leader or principal person in a movement, cause, etc.

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From Book Yourself Solid: How to Talk About What You Do (a mini review)

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Preface: In alignment with the “Less is More” coaching I have been learning from the Know Can Do! philosophy, this is a review of just one chapter of Michael Port’s Book Yourself Solid, and a contribution to Joyful Jubilant Learning’s Trackback Sunday.

I was fortunately blessed to receive a review copy of Michael Port’s second book to be released in April, called Beyond Booked Solid: Your Business, Your Life, Your Way—It’s All Inside. Coincidentally, I’d picked up his first book about a week or so earlier and so I’ve been reading them both at the same time; really good stuff.

Book_yourself_solid Michael Port calls himself “the guy to call when you’re tired of thinking small” and accordingly, he called his first book Book Yourself Solid, The Fastest, Easiest, and Most Reliable System for Getting More Clients Than You Can Handle Even if You Hate Marketing and Selling.

That long sub-title tells you a lot very quickly, doesn’t it.

That’s the point of a chapter within Book Yourself Solid called How to Talk About What You Do. Michael writes,

“We hear the question ‘What do you do for a living?’ all the time. Your professional category is the wrong answer.”

In other words, the typical responses of “I’m a business consultant,” or “I’m a massage therapist,” or “I’m a graphic designer,” are wrong in that they are “static and boring,” and will only get you a polite nod or comment, or worse yet, an awkward silence and a completely blank stare. Michael points out that once you get those kinds of responses anything more you say about yourself or your services is likely to sound pushy. So true.

Even if the person we are speaking with does not feel any pushiness, we do, and we start to shrink in our conversation, with feigned humility doing us —and them— a great disservice.

Michael has done an exceptional job in his writing of this chapter, one where he coaches us in the art of engaging conversation to elicit questions from the person we are speaking with, so they will answer that “what’s in this for me?” question that is likely bouncing around in their heads, even if subconsciously. He posits that “a primary reason that many service professional fail to build thriving businesses is that they struggle to articulate—in a clear and compelling way—exactly what solutions and benefits they offer.”

Well, he certainly nailed a bunch of my without-enough-thought responses to that “What do you do for a living?” question; my conversations have died off prematurely and rather ungracefully more times than I care to remember.

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When Less is More

The concept of “Less is More” is a strong central thread in Know Can Do! (which I have talked about in recent postings here and at MWAC), and it has permeated my thinking in a few ways. I am quite sure it was the reason this book jumped out at me with a “pick me up!” voice I could almost hear when I was in Barnes & Noble day before yesterday.

Give_it_up Ask yourself: Did you really have to have that venti white chocolate mocha from Starbucks yesterday (and almost everyday)?

Did you really have to wait and get all worked up about those x#!!* elevators when the staircase was right across the hall?

Could you live better with less?

As the author explains about her book:

"Would it be possible to live without the designer coffee, the Kate Spade Bags, the technology that was a part of my every day existence? Could stripping away some of those items and habits make me a appreciate what I was so fortunate to have? I created a plan. Each month for one year, I would choose one of my favorite things and give it up cold turkey for one month. This would become my year to live better with less."

More as described by the publisher's blurb,

"Who better than a professional clutter and space control expert to write about doing with less? Serially, during the course of a year, Carlomagno gave up alcohol, newspapers, shopping, dining out, taxis, cell phones and television for one month each. Writing in an easy, anecdotal style, she describes what she gained from each sacrifice. While forsaking alcohol during January, for example, she became aware of the peer pressure to drink. Subsequently, Carlomagno ordered her favorite dirty martini only when she really desired one. In April she ceased her daily reading of the New York Times and found a new appreciation for poetry; she also joined a reading group. A July spent abstaining from TV and videos allowed time for nightly walks, listening to music and completing chores around her apartment—activities that had previously been crammed into the weekend. Carlomagno's reactions to her renunciations, which overall, she feels, enriched her emotionally, make for entertaining reading, although only those who can afford such indulgences as dining out frequently will be able to enjoy the luxury of doing without them."

I didn’t buy this book, for there were others that made the cut during that visit, however I found myself thinking about it again this morning:

If I did the same thing – cut out something I really don’t need, just one thing a month for twelve months straight, what would disappear from my life?

For Carlomagno it was,

  1. alcohol
  2. television
  3. newspapers
  4. cell phones
  5. taxis
  6. dining out
  7. coffee
  8. cursing
  9. shopping
  10. elevators
  11. chocolate
  12. multi-tasking

What kind of things would disappear from yours?

Business Parable Books: Yay! or Nay?

Interesting discussion at Joyful Jubilant Learning stirred up by Reg Adkins’ review of Fish! A Remarkable Way to Boost Morale and Improve Results.

Fish The book is pretty well known in the business parable genre, perhaps because it has the distinction of being modeled after the very real, very fun Pikes Place Fish Market… perhaps because since being first published in 2000 it has sold kajillion copies (to still be at #343 at Amazon.com eight years later is pretty astounding)… and here’s another thought; perhaps because it’s worked for a bunch of people.

What’s been your experience? Have parable books worked any magic for you or your organization?

In the spirit of quick disclosure and up-front honesty, I ebb and flow in my mood for them and depending what message they convey. There are a few I love, and others where I find the writing is poor and the stories contrived. I readily admit that I may have enjoyed the Know Can Do! parable recently because it was one of those “when the student is ready the teacher appears” experiences for me: The book came to me at exactly the right time, and it is destined to be the thank you gift of “keep this going!” urging I start giving to all my workshop clients. (Spoke of Know Can Do! here, and have a review coming soon posted here.)

Generally, as a manager always looking for good and relatively inexpensive training tools within the workplace, I really liked parable books when I’d stumble on the right one for my crew, in that they are so easy to incorporate into practice, most having simple and fairly straight-forward messages. As I wrote in a comment at Reg’s review:

I am so glad you chose this book for us Reg, for I think that we vastly underestimate what great tools “parable books” can be (and not just for the workplace). Compare Fish! with The Opposable Mind which Tim just reviewed for us: Parable books are ‘bite-sized,’ more easily doable coaching tools that work particularly well for those people who will say, “I hate to read.” That’s a sentiment that is not widely shared by this community (if at all!) but every teacher, trainer and coach will say [not reading] is way more prevalent than we’d like it to be.

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