Variables of the Monday or Friday Decision

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[Dan]

Rosa

This is wonderful, artful stuff. It makes me think about an exercise I have sometimes done in classes for managers and supervisors on coaching their employees. I ask people to think about who has positively coached and mentored them in their own lives, and specifically what the coach did for them and how. (It's a sad commentary that frequently there are people in my classes who have never had the experience.) With enormous frequency those with positive past experiences report that the coach believed in them, challenged them, and saw more potential and capability in them than at the time they yet saw in themselves.

The irony is that often when supervisors and managers approach difficult conversations they do so from the standpoint of seeing less in the person being coached than the person sees in themselves. The negative mindset generates a self-fulfilling prophecy -- no one likes to be regarded as being less than they are in their own heart.

So the trick is to use the power of workplace "intimacy" (into-me-you-see) to call the person to their best self. And, of course, that also requires the supervisor or manager to operate from a personal best self, as well.

Thanks for writing so well on this subject.

[Rosa Say]

Aloha Dan, thank you so much for sharing your mana'o here with us.

I feel very humbled by your comment that "This is wonderful, artful stuff," for "artful" is a word I absolutely would use to describe the writing which you do on your Unfolding Leadership. Yours is a very restful and soothing blog I normally choose to visit on weekends or when I have much more time.

Mahalo nui for your visit and for your words of wisdom shared here.
With aloha, Rosa